When I first heard the words ‘you are not likely to conceive naturally’ I knew I was sharing an experience with thousands of others and yet it was the start of a lonely, difficult, but ultimately fulfilling journey. My husband Rob and I eventually navigated our way towards adoption and our two children moved in with us ten years ago. The experience of adopting children who have been neglected and abused has changed our lives significantly and forever. It has challenged and often changed our views on a wide range of issues such as identity, parenting, family and education and has sometimes left us feeling misunderstood, unsupported and misrepresented.
Throughout this experience I have kept a diary and have drawn on this personal record to write a memoir. It is no tale of misery but an honest, and I hope humorous and current, take on what it feels like to tackle parenthood a little differently. My book faces up to some difficult questions: what it is like to contemplate never having children, what it’s like to parent children to whom you are not biologically related, what the impacts are of early abuse and neglect and how does society and the media view children and families who do not quite fit the norm.
My book No Matter What will be published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers on 23 July 2013.
I contribute articles on adoption reform and therapeutic parenting to the online magazine Community Care.
My literary agent is Genevieve Carden of the CardenWright Literary Agency (www.cardenwright.com) and she can be contacted on .